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出發到德國的前一晚,我重看了很久以前的電影 Up in the air本片敘述一個男子一年出差322天,四處資遣員工的故事。為什麼他能長期做這份工作呢?出差對他來說,很輕鬆、很隨意,

不需要面對人際間的協調、爭吵、祕密和妥協。

資遣完員工後,就可以拍拍屁股走人,一切乾淨俐落。

直到他喜歡上一個女人,第一次他想為了她,做點什麼,

他想花時間和她相處,他開始懂得什麼是愛。

但對她而言,他只是生活中逃避現實的插曲。

 

片中他的妹夫在婚禮當天怯場了,姊姊請他幫忙勸妹夫,但他說我的工作是教人們逃避承諾。

姊姊很生氣,說他長期不在身邊,根本不存在於家人的生命中。他聽了,決定幫妹妹。

妹夫說我昨晚開始想結婚、生子、小孩長大、衰老,這有什麼意義呢?

他說,婚姻可能只是走向死亡的過程,我們都在時間的巨輪上,我們無法放慢或暫停,每個人最終都難逃一死,

但試著回想你生命中最珍貴最重要的時刻,你是否獨自一人?不是。有伴侶的人生才美好!

男主角刻意切斷與人的連結,選擇用逃避、出差的方式渡日,

直到經歷妹妹結婚、遇到喜歡的人和對人生充滿熱情與好奇剛出社會的新同事,他才明白人與人間的交流的重要性。

 

當年看這部片時,才剛開始工作不久,出國次數也不多,不能深刻領悟片中的道理。

好多年過去了,今年出差出國天數超過180天,領到航空公司金卡,反而如片中男主角悵然若失。

生活的確需要一定的穩定性,很多東西在沈澱後才會顯現出來,而非表面上的體驗。

體驗後,感受生活的快速飛轉,感嘆生命的萬變,我更能看清什麼是我想要的,

縱使外在環境不斷變化,我學會向內觀看,聆聽自己的內心,客觀的分析及接受現實。

不斷地抗拒和編造故事,只會浪費時間和能量,使內心更加渾濁。

快樂來自外在,短暫而易逝,而喜悅發自內心且持久,只要常與內心對話,更接近真我,更能覺察喜悅的泉源。

我相信,每件事的發生都是老天給我的功課,沒有克服不了的難關,只有無法接受的困境。

我期許自己能夠已更開放的心去面對生命中的每一課!

 

 

The night before I head to Germany, I watched the old movie, Up in the air, again. This movie described the life for a man who traveled 322 days per year to laid off employees for his clients. Why can he work for this company for long? Business trips for him are very easy and casual. There is no need to face negotiations, arguments, secrets and compromises. After he laid off people, he could easily fly away without any drama. Everything is clear and clean. Until he met a woman, it was the first time when he wanted to do something for someone, to spend time with someone. He started to understand what love is. However, he was just a parenthesis to escape her real life.

 

Another important moment in his life was that his brother-in-law got cold feet on the wedding day. His older sister asked him to talk to the brother-in-law, but he said, "my speech is to teach people how to avoid commitment." The sister was mad, and she said that he was never around, and never existed in family's life. Then, he realized how important this action was for his little sister. The brother-in-law said that he started to think about marriage, kids, and getting old, and felt that " what's the point?!" He said, marriage could be part of dying, we are all on the running clocks. We can't even slow down or pause it. We all end up in the same place. If you think about it, your favorite memories, the most important moments in your life, were you alone?" Life is better with company. He purposely cut the connection with people in his life, and chose to live his life with avoidance and business trips. Until he experienced the marriage of his little sister, the woman he liked, and the new colleague who was passionate and curious about life, he realized how important to have connections with people.

 

The first time when I watched the movie, I just started my first job, I did not travel much, so I could not really understand the meaning of the movie. After so many years, I travel more than 180 days per year, I got my gold card from the airline, but I felt lost like the actor who hit 10 million miles from his trips. The stability is important in life. Many things come out after some time, rather than experience it on the surface. After experiencing this kind of fast lifestyle, and encountered the changeable moments in life, I have a clear mind of what I really want. Even though the external world keeps changing, I learned to look into my internal world, listen to my heart, and analyze and accept the facts. If I continue to resist it and make up more stories, it is just wasting my time and energy, and making my mind even unclear.

Happiness comes from external environment, fast, and easy to lose. However, joy comes from the inner-self. It is more lasting. As long as I talk to my heart, get closer to inner-self, I am more aware of the source of life from within. I believe, everything happens for a reason. There is nothing I can't overcome, but there is only some problem which I can't accept and stuck in it. I hope that I can be more open to face every lesson in my life!

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